And the LORD God said,
It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him an help meet for him.
Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
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Twenty one years ago today, I became a “help meet” to my husband. We’re told in Titus, that the older women should teach the younger women to love their husbands and children.
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5 (NKJV)
I think one of the most important roles that we have as women, is to teach by example. Who are these younger women we are to teach? For me, it’s my daughter and the other young women in my family, the teenage girls in my Sunday School class, young women I know in my community or church, or other women that God places in my path.
Am I the same kind of “help meet” that I was in our first years of marriage? By the grace of God, I am not. There was a time my husband shared this verse with me:
It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop,
Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Proverbs 25:24 (NKJV)
You might imagine that I wasn’t making it easy for him.
I’d like to share below what I have personally learned over the years about my role as a wife.
Seek the Lord first in all things. Share a time of prayer and devotions together.
Pray FOR him, pray WITH him.
Respect him, don’t talk down to him, and don’t talk to others about him in a negative way.
Don’t take him for granted. Be appreciative of him and the things he does. Tell him so.
It’s not all about ME. Take time to hear his concerns, stories, hear about his day.
Is your husband your best friend? If not, try treating him with the same respect you’d give a friend.
Don’t be a nag, don’t hold grudges, don’t bring up past mistakes
Let him enjoy his hobbies without badgering him about it.
Control your temper, watch your words, use your words to build him up, not tear him down.
Spend time together, eat your meals together, laugh together
Never give your husband a reason not to trust you.
If you have...work at re-building that trust.
Ask God to show you how to be the wife he wants you to be
As the years have passed and our spiritual walk with the Lord has grown, our marriage has matured and grown stronger and the bond between us is deeper. The foundation of our marriage is a commitment not only to each other, but first and foremost to love and honor the Lord.
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